Pull out your list you made from “clearing the path“. If you haven’t made it yet, go back now and do that. For each item you listed as the worst thing that could happen if you went for your dream, answer the following:
- What can I do to prevent that worst case scenario from happening?
- Even if it does happen, what will I do to repair the damage?
When you get stuck, imagine what advice your best friend or a trusted mentor or teacher would offer you if you found yourself in that situation.
When you complete that list with the two follow-up questions, be willing to be courageously honest with yourself and figure out what you’re putting of out of fear- fear of failure, embarrassment, hearing “no”, being laughed at, or even fear of succeeding. When you are willing to take steps, have uncomfortable conversations, and take some risks, you put yourself in a position to succeed.
I’ve heard it said many times you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. Think about those people in your life right now. Are they living the life they desire? Are they following through on going for their goals and dreams? Are they supportive and generous or fear-driven and guarded?
It is possible that regardless of how much we love someone or they love us, they aren’t the right person for a support network for your dreams. It doesn’t mean they have to be removed, but perhaps you want to start spending more time with people aligned with your goals and dreams.
The final piece of this part of the equation is to explore what actions you need to do daily to be the best version of you. For me, I start my morning with a glass of water and meditation followed by a lesson in dueling and then planning my day. Part of that planning includes an affirmation and gratitude. After that, I have breakfast and then go exercise. It sounds like a lot, but it really isn’t. It creates a solid foundation for me to build my day upon. Everyone is different. It took me almost two years of exploring different tweaks in my routine before I found the right one for me. You need to find yours.
Next week we will do the final step in the fear-setting process and quite honestly the most eye-opening, motivating step.