I never really thought too much about my addiction to convenience until recently. I never thought much about where aluminum foil, Syran Wrap, Hefty garbage back, Ziplock baggies, and toilet paper come from. I know I use them and am grateful for their presence as it has made my life easier. Since plastics were introduced …
There is a drawer in my desk that is a catch all for everything I am unsure of where it should go. Likewise, there is a place inside me where I put emotions I am not sure how to address in the moment. Confident that at some point I’ll deal with them (stuff and emotions), they …
In considering collaboration and respect, take a moment to reflect on these two work environments. The first, the boss is always right. If challenged, the boss erupts in anger or becomes passive aggressive. The employees of the company are constantly stressed, pressured to get everything right, unable to fully engage or contribute their skills, talent, …
Measuring the leaders greatness based on the bottom line is like measuring the quality and caliber of a person based on looks alone. A great leader inspires trust. Leaders who are skilled in being present are able to build trust because their presence drives their self-awareness, communications, actions, and decision making. Before we can discuss …
As a leader, you understand the importance adapting to changes and disruptions. Leaders who are most effective understand the value leaning into their team and trusting them to make the right choice or fail upwards. Let me explain what I mean by that. When you want to drive from NYC to Killington, VT you have …
“You, know how it is, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself,” my friend said as she was telling me about the problems encountered on a project she was managing. To me it sounded like a martyr with perfection issues. As I thought about this, I recalled all of the …
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. My husband struggled with empathy for a long time because he believed people should act from logic, not feelings. He didn’t understand that feelings were the driving factor in decision making and action taking. Daniel Kahneman, author of Thinking fast, thinking slow, said …
The two reasons most often given for resisting change? Change is hard. I don’t like change. But what is at the roots of change is fear- it might not be as comfortable as where you are now, it might not work out, it might work out and lead to other change, and the worst of …
After over a decade of no contact with my uncle, having to answer “no” every time a cousin would ask if I have heard from my uncle, and enduring outrage from a his daughter for not being a part of her life and including her in my family earlier this year (I don’t know where …
I’ve been thinking about the stories we tell ourselves about our lives.You know the ones that make us look better, make someone else look worse, and in general make us feel better in some way (even if it’s twisted). We make up stories to make sense about people and experiences in our lives. Ultimately, it …
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