Asking better questions in business

As a coach, I receive a lot of questions. I have learned that often the question being asked is rooted in a desire for permission or shirking accountability. You know, do it for them.

“How do I know I am making the right choice?” Is a common question entrepreneurs ask. This question, more often than not, is rooted in fear. Digging a little deeper, getting out of your head and into your body, and paying close attention could lead you to a better question.

Is that what you really want to know? What would happen if you didn’t make the right choice? What would happen if you did? Notice as you ask the question how you feel? Do you feel heavy or light, open or contracted?

What would happen if you didn’t make the right choice? What would happen if you did? Notice as you ask the question how you feel? Do you feel heavy or light, open or contracted?

What would happen if you did? Notice as you ask the question how you feel? Do you feel heavy or light, open or contracted?

Notice as you ask the question how you feel? Do you feel heavy or light, open or contracted?

The question may get reframed to “What steps can I take now to bring this ___ to a successful outcome for all involved?” Very different question, isn’t it?

“Why isn’t ___(project, company, vision, employee) working?” usually means some blind spots need exploration.

What are you not willing to see about the situation?

What are you secretly afraid will happen if it does work?

Who will be hurt/offended if it works?

What expectations arise from its success?

Sometimes we can self-sabotage outcomes without even really being aware of it. To get real clarity, you may need some outside perspective. Be willing to receive the observations shared, tough. They may not be what you want to hear, but like The Rolling Stones sang, “You can’t always get what you want. But it you try sometimes, you get what you need!”

Finally, “Yeah, but how!?” is simply an unwillingness to listen to your own inner wisdom. Take some time to get quiet and listen. You know how, the better question is why aren’t you?

 

If you need some help capturing clarity, let’s chat!

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